Oh the 'funk', this is what I label that heaviness that creeps up on you when you least expect it. Sometimes it happens when there is nothing on the surface that seems wrong, you look around you and you have so much to be grateful for, yet your heart feels heavy.
I had a case of the heaviness this week; and it was blind sighting to me because my heart is so full of gratitude for so much in my life. Yet here I was, working in the office, and a song came on and I was in tears. As I’ve learned and taught, self-love is my go-to remedy when I am feeling this way. I know that when I am feeling this way, my soul is communicating with me, and I have to listen to it and find answers.
I wanted to share with you these tips that not only help me, but ones that have helped clients over the years. Choose one and try it, or all of them. Self-care is unique to everyone.
Here are my 5 tips to help you feel, identify, and process your emotions:
The very first step I recommend when you are feeling an attack of the funk, is to feel out whatever it is that is coming to you. If your emotions are hitting you and you need to cry, cry! One of the best ways to understand what emotion needs to come out, is to use music. Go to your playlist or a music site, and search for a song that reflects what you’re feeling. Put those headphones in, turn it up, and open your heart, mind, and soul. Let out whatever emotions come up; sadness, anger, etc. FEEL the emotion. This is communication from your soul. Respect it and let it express itself.
2.) Become Aware:
The next step is to become aware of the message you need to hear. Awareness is how you discover the deeper issue rooted from your emotions. You can do this in numerous ways, but one of my favorite ways to do this is to journal it. If you don’t have a journal, grab a piece of paper and start being real with yourself. It can be as simple as writing out- ‘What’s hurting me?’ and make bullet points of all the things that are making you feel a heavy heart. Writing is a powerful way to do this because you don’t have to worry about people trying to give you advice or tell you what to do (lol). However, if you are not much of a writer, or if it feels awkward for you, you can also do this by talking to your closest loved ones. Ask your spouse, sister, friend, and/or parent, for some time to connect with them, and come from your heart. Tell them you are feeling _____ and that you need to process it with them. You can tell them upfront you’re not looking for advice, but that you just need to get it out.
3.) Bless and Release:
Before you can release heavy emotions, it’s good to nurture them with love and blessings. If you wrote them out, make a separate list after your first one and write, ‘My Blessings’ and write or say a prayer for each of the reasons on your list that have you feeling heavy. Speak or write from your soul and share these deep feelings with your higher power. Release them to the Universe, knowing that they are surrounded by love.
4.) Do at least one Self-Love activity:
This could be anything that nurtures your heart, body, mind, and/or soul. I like to do one of each when I am in a funk to ensure that I am covering all areas of myself. Some ideas of each include; stating or writing positive self-love affirmations, exercising, dancing, reading an empowering book, journaling, praying and/or meditating. Meditating is one of my favorite ways to escape heaviness. Meditating is so relaxing and good for your soul. Just pick a cozy spot in your house, lay down in a comfortable position, and play a video of a guided meditation of your choice. (Check out the bottom of this post for a link to one of my favorite guided meditations for nurturing well-being).
5.) Spend time with someone you love:
This sounds so simple, but its SO important. Grab your spouse, children, sister, friend, pet, and spend some quality time with them. Being around beings who love you unconditionally is one of the best ways to raise your vibrations which make you feel joy. By making time to spend time with them, you’re also making THEM feel special and loved, and sharing love naturally helps you to think and feel from a place of love.
As I mentioned before, self-love is different for everyone, but one thing we all experience, are tough days. Whether our emotions are heavy due to experiences in our lives, hormones, chemical imbalances, or just daily struggles, we all have emotional moments. We are all humans trying to do the best we can. That’s why I wanted to share this, as a way for you to have some tips to help you if you are having ‘one of those days.’
I pray that your heart is lifted up today. I pray that you feel nurtured in love in all areas of your life. I pray that you see the miracles all around you.
Sending you love and light,
Suggested link for general well-being meditation: